You know when you scroll through instagram and you come across a meme and you take the time to read it — all of a sudden the same meme and reels keep popping up and it really starts to resonate with you? This happened with me recently. I came across a reel from a wife/mother who started the text with “Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly” -N’tima.
This really made me take the time to think about my relationship with my husband. Bronson has been the absolute best husband, father and physician over these past 10 years that we’ve been together. I have never met someone on the face of this earth who speaks so highly of me as a wife, mother and now business owner. Bronson allows me to vent to him in all aspects of my life. Whether its a hard day at the office seeing patients; whether I break myself down because I had a hard evening with the kids; whether I am struggling as a partner to listen to him and hear his requests; whether I am struggling to be present in our marriage; whether I am finding it hard to be a good daughter and sister — in whatever aspect I struggle with on a daily basis I have never met someone who looks at me with such kindess and forgiveness and who speaks highly of me to each person that comes into his life.
I feel like we go through so many day to day challenges with his work schedule, childrens’ schedule, finding time to spend with friends/family, or even finding time to spend with eachother or ourselves but he has always made our family a priority. When he leaves the OR he comes straight home to spend time with our children. He has reduced his schedule on weekends to be more present and be with us. I feel like I don’t notice all of this because truly I expect him to be home more and I expect him to work less weekends after a grueling residency/fellowship program, and I expect him to be a more present father but even after all the expectations I have he does it.
Find the person that you can talk to about all the struggles you face and about all the milestones you surpass. Find the person who doesn’t make you feel afraid to sit down in the deepest moments when you haven’t felt like your usual self and listens to you. Advises you. Sits with you. Thats a life partner; that’s marrying your best friend.
xx
